5 Things You Shouldn’t Say To A Blogger

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Today I found a great post  (Things I Wish People Knew About Being Self Employed) that had me nodding my head because it was so true. It made me think about all the things people say to bloggers that make us cringe, roll our eyes and sometimes want to slam our heads on the desk (or theirs…. head, not desk). If you’ve been blogging for a while you’ll probably find your own trigger phrases somewhere in this list.

Anything about getting stuff “for free”

Day in and day out I hear this complaint the most (and share their annoyance). Blogging isn’t a magical button that we push and free stuff materializes in our living room. True, we are sent items and services that we don’t pay for out of pocket. However, we work before, during and after for those things.

Blogging (done correctly) requires many hours a day. Testing, writing, photographing, editing, promotion, video and more all go into one product review. You also don’t get fabulous offers right out of the gate. That blogger you envy because she just got a ‘free’ refrigerator? She spent 2 – 3 years working on her site to get to that point.

“Teach me how to get things for free”.  This drives me bonkers.  It isn’t free.  I get the products, sometimes have to assemble them, use it, take photos and sometimes videos, write the article, edit the article, add links, edit photos.  A good 2-3 hours for one article. – Nichol, KiddiesCorner Deals

“You just get to go there and/or get that for free?” As if I am not doing any reciprocating work for the brand. Grr – Nothing is free! –  Joy, JoyfulMusings

“My husband said to me tonight. “You’re a blogger, why didn’t you just tweet to get that new stove top you wanted?” …Ugh. – Anne-Marie, ThisMamaCooks

 

Calling it a hobby, project or a waste of time.

You don’t have to punch a clock every day to have a real job. There’s no denying that making my own schedule and staying in my pajamas if I want to is awesome. You won’t hear me disagree, there are definitely perks. But, what I’m wearing, or where I’m sitting, doesn’t change the fact that I work anywhere from 6 – 10 hours a day, including weekends – as do most successful bloggers. If you want a a profitable blog, you can’t type for 30 minutes and then take the rest of the week off. We work full time hours, and most of us work hard. It’s not a hobby, it’s a career.

A lot of people act like I don’t work or have a job, which drives me nuts. It usually comes out in little passive aggressive comments, like, “It’s a good thing you don’t work so you have time to concentrate on your cookbook.” Or “Are you going to start looking for a job soon?” Just because I’m self-employed doesn’t mean I don’t have a job! – Kiersten, OhMyVeggies

“When are you going to return to your real job?” – said to Penelope, PenelopesOasis

“You don’t need to spend so much time on a computer.” – said to Crystal, TidbitsOfExperience

“You shouldn’t call your self a blogger, you need to say writer or people won’t take your serious.”  – Said to Jessica, ThatTechChick

“You still doing that blogging thing?” Like it’s been some sort of temporary, silly little hobby. Yeah, for the last 10 years now – and most of that full time, too! – Anne-Marie, ThisMamaCooks

 

Can you get me (fill in the blank) for free? – Dee, DeeSaysBlog

It’s amazing that this happens often enough to mention it. You’ve been working hard – often for years – and a friend says, “I really want that new coffee maker. Can you use your blog to get me one?” NO. Let me repeat that, NO. Don’t do this. Don’t be ‘that’ person who wants us to work so they can get something. Remember all those steps that come along with requesting a product from a company? We still have to do that, only you’re asking us to do it without any personal gain because that coffee maker will be sitting in your kitchen.

 

Anyone can be a blogger. It’s easy.

There’s a big difference between owning a website and being a successful blogger. The main factors being time and hard work. Anyone can buy a domain, but to turn that domain into a full fledged blog – one that has readers, brand relationships and profit – takes not only work, but also determination, talent and an aggressive work ethic. You have to go out and get the work, it doesn’t float into your inbox. Most bloggers work without noticeable profit for the first few years. “If you make it, they will come” only goes so far in for-profit blogging. It takes someone who is willing to push through the time spent talking to yourself because you don’t have an audience yet or you’ve been turned down for every job to which you’ve applied.

“I can start a blog! I can do that!” Sure, anyone can START a blog but most people quit within the first 6 months once they realize just how much work it actually is. – Jamie, ToysInTheDryer

And my personal favorite…

“So….how’s that bloggy….thingy….going? What do you do again?”
Head, meet desk.

 

What do friends and family say to you or ask you that drives you up the wall?


Kenda

I write stuff, drink too much coffee, and laugh at my own jokes. You can read more here or catch up with me on Twitter @RemakingJune

46 Comments to 5 Things You Shouldn’t Say To A Blogger

  1. Oh, I have this one family member that every time I talk to her it’s “Are you working anywhere?” No, I just sit on my arse twidlling my thumbs all day, lol.

    And I constantly get asked for “free” stuff. And basically all of the people who ask me for “free” stuff have no idea what is going on on my blog because they don’t follow it. Ugh.

    It was the same when I worked in radio: people constantly asking me for “free” tickets who didn’t even listen to me or even know when I was on the air.

  2. I’m a fairly new blogger and I’m totally getting ready to put in the hours and work to maintain a successful page. But many people don’t realize that it’s a lot of work. What’s kinda insulting is that many of your very own friends and family don’t take things seriously enough to even glance at all the work you do. Excuse me, how about you just click my link and see! Sure it’s not much of a commute from the sofa to the bed and back, but I know that I’m putting in long hard hours just to make my blog appealing to the eye. Not to mention regular posting which can be difficult during a spell of writer’s block or photographer’s block. Or, in my case, bento maker’s block. I just hope I can be as dedicated as the people I follow someday.